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10 Dating Mistakes Men Commonly Make

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You worked up the nerve to ask her out, made a reservation at your favorite swanky restaurant and you’re finally ready for the big date. Before you dash out the door to sweep her off her feet, take a few minutes to make sure you’ve got everything planned out and know what you should (and definitely shouldn’t) say or do on a first date. From bashing exes to awful one-liners, there are a few things men tend to do on dates that drive women crazy – and not in a good way. Take a look at the top 10 most common dating mistakes!

10. Using Cheesy Lines

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“So how is a beautiful girl like you still single?” and other cheesy lines have no place on a first date (or any date, for that matter), so leave the cheesy one-liners at the door and just be yourself for a few hours. That’s not to say compliments are a bad thing, just keep them honest and classy. A simple “you look lovely this evening” should be sufficient, without coming across as creepy or over-eager. While you might think your one-liner is the smoothest in town, there’s an almost guaranteed chance that she’s heard that line (or something like it) before, and will likely see your come-on as obnoxious, at best.

9. Not Having a Game Plan

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If you’ve taken the initiative to ask a woman out on a date, make sure you also take the initiative to plan the date. Showing up and asking where she’d like to go is not only going to put her on the spot and make the situation awkward, but will also get the whole date off to a bad start. It also looks like you didn’t care enough to actually come up with a plan for the date. If you’re nervous about choosing a place without getting her input first, check in with her well before the date and get a feel for her interests and favorite spots. Don’t be afraid to just choose your favorite restaurant or venue, however, even if you’re not sure she’ll like it. After all, that’s what first dates are all about – learning a little about each other to see if you might be compatible!

8. Playing it Too Cool

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Finding that balance on a first date between playing it cool and looking like you’re about to have a panic attack can be tricky. If you’re nervous, be careful not to overcompensate to the point that you come off as playing things way too cool. Not only does this come across as cocky, annoying and even a bit intimidating, but she may get the idea that you aren’t really into the date at all. Women want to be made to feel special on a date, not like they need to constantly fight for your interest. Yawning or glancing at your phone repeatedly sends off the signal that you aren’t really interested, and she’ll probably find a reason to cut out early.

7. Being a Ball of Nerves

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You don’t want to play it too cool and look like you don’t care, but you also don’t want to look like a bumbling ball of nerves on your first date, either. Admitting you’re nervous will automatically make her feel like she needs to assure you constantly so you’ll relax, which means she probably won’t enjoy the date very much. Instead, take a deep breath, wipe off your sweaty palms, and act natural. Be yourself. Have a glass of wine to calm your nerves. But, whatever you do, do not tell her you’re nervous and feel like you might puke from a panic attack. It’ll make an adorable story someday, when you’ve been married 40 years and the grandkids want to know how you two met, so save it for then.

6. Checking the Phone

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Seriously, guys. Nothing says “I’m not interested in you or this date” more clearly than a guy who won’t put his phone down during the course date. If you have pressing obligations that mean you can’t just shut your phone down completely, at least have the courtesy to excuse yourself to the restroom to check your phone occasionally, out of eye-shot of your date. If you must take a call, excuse yourself and make the call quick, and apologize when you return. If you’re constantly glancing at your phone, updating Facebook or trying to live-tweet the entire date, chances are good your date will check out early and regret ever having agreed to go out with you in the first place.

Anna enjoys blogging about a variety of topics, from fashion and beauty to food and travel. Find Anna on LinkedIn!

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