8 Things You Might Not Know About Being Married



New love is exciting and exhilarating, and can often lead to you finding “the one” that you want to spend the rest of your life with. While things may seem peachy at the beginning of a relationship, the toll of marriage can have a significant impact on the union, especially when you’re not armed with certain pieces of information about the state of matrimony. Here are eight things you should be prepared to deal with if you’re on the verge of getting married.

8. You Won’t Always be Physically Attracted to Your Spouse



What your heart tells you versus what your mind tells you can often be two different things. Even if you know intellectually that you might not always be physically or sexually attracted to your spouse, when such lack of attention hits in a marriage, many people panic. We’re mainly an image-based culture, and are taught through the media that if you’re not insanely attracted to your partner, there’s a problem.

This is simply not true. We see our spouses in a many different lights – from stylishly dressed, to hovering over a toilet bowl. The level of attraction can fluctuate throughout the course of the day, which is totally normal. Knowing this fact can alleviate any stresses so that you don’t automatically assume something’s wrong.

7. You Won’t Always Like Each Other



Sometimes his jokes or antics will drive you nuts. His laughter will seem more like nails on a chalkboard than a basket of roses. This is just the way it is when you spend so much time with the same person day in and day out. For some reason, we allow for such tolerances when it comes to friends and even family members, but when it comes to a spouse, we think we’re just supposed to fall for the fantasy that we should love everything about our partners all the time.

6. Marriage Does Not Complete You



You’ve seen Jerry Maguire, and have fallen for the “You complete me” phrase, hook, line and sinker. While this is totally romantic and all, a healthy marriage actually consists of two “whole” persons who both bring their own contributions to a marriage, without having to rely on each other to “complete” them as human beings. In other words, a half plus a half doesn’t make one in a marriage; it takes two complete individuals to provide for their own level of wholeness to contribute to a healthy marriage.

5. Having Kids will Strain Your Relationship



Life with young kids is stressful and overwhelming, yet beautiful and rich – and will most likely put an added strain even to the strongest of unions. With such an incredible demand being placed on parents for time, and fulfilling the needs of both the children and the spouse, it’s nearly impossible for there not to be some sort of impact on the marriage. Knowing this can help you prepare for what lies ahead if children enter the picture.

Having this little tidbit of info can also help you remember how important it is to find the time necessary to nurture both yourself and your marriage.

As a freelance writer, Kyle enjoys writing and editing diverse content for several businesses across the United States. Find Kyle on LinkedIn!

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