Overshare? 7 Things You Should Never to Say to Your Partner



Oversharing is one example of how communication can go terribly wrong. For the committed couple, it could mean an hour long conversation that should have taken only 10 minutes (at least according to one partner), and for those in the dating pool, saying too much about past escapades could end a relationship before it starts. Knowing what not to say can sometimes trump all of the other advice about what you should say combined. Reduce misunderstandings and maintain the integrity of your relationship by following these simple tips designed to help you avoid oversharing.

6. Avoid Revealing Too Much Too Soon



Talking about past errors in judgement or socially unsavvy life circumstances can make you feel vulnerable. There may not be enough respect built between the two of you to prevent judgement from taking over, or it could create a feeling of artificial closeness, which puts pressure on a relationship to succeed, but can ultimately have the opposite effect. You could also worry that your partner has difficulty keeping secrets and may tell other people about your experience, making you feel insecure and worried about damage to your reputation.

5. Don’t Overshare the Small Details



Oversharing the sundry details of your life, such as picking up the dry cleaning, may take the fun out of your conversations. If you need to work out a problem, talking to a friend first may help you keep your perspective and keep the romance alive. One too many stories about your eBay bidding woes may land you on Match.com before you can say B-O-R-I-N-G.

4. Keep a Lid on Past Relationships



Details of past relationships are fun to discuss with a friend, but a spouse or new beau may consider it rude. An unresolved old relationship can haunt a new one. Oddly, even if the person now lives in another time zone it can create a feeling of jealousy. Oversharing about a past love may give you power or make you feel desired, but ultimately it is impolite to bring up. Only when you feel secure about your intentions and mentioning the person is only tangential to a larger story or point, then bringing up the name of an old liaison is usually fine, as long as your partner feels comfortable.

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